6 Ways to Get Kids to Stop Crying
One of the toughest parts of being a parent is dealing with an unhappy child. Whether they are tired, sick or just suffering from the terrible-twos, listening to the whines and crying fits of a child doesn't have to be tolerated. While making the tiny tots stop their whining or fit throwing might seem impossible, the following 6 options are great ways to get kids to stop crying.
Redirect Their Attention.
This is particularly effective in toddlers. Their attention span is next to nothing, and having them focus on something else usually does the trick. Ask them a question, offer them a drink and allow them to place their attention on something other than the object they are whining about.
Pretend Not to Hear Them
Whining or crying is simply to gain the attention of the parent, and the best way to counter the behavior is to simply ignore. This is easier at home than in public, but acting like you don’t hear or see their actions is a sure way to get them to lose interest. If they aren’t getting the attention for their actions, it will be a shorter fit. Additionally, if a parent is consistent in the ignoring efforts, the child will soon learn that whining is ineffective and will eventually stop the behavior.
Put Space Between You and the Child
If you are home, simply leave the room when your older child begins to whine. Doing this a few times will teach the older child that whining won’t be tolerated, and is a polite method of showing them it that whining won’t be tolerated.
Add to the Jar
This is a good option if your child earns money through an allowance. When the whining starts, give a warning and if the behavior continues, take part of their allowance and place it in a ‘whiney jar’. Over time, the child can work to gain back some of the cash with good behavior or extra work around the house.
Place them in Time Out
Getting on eye level with a younger child and explaining that it is clear they are upset and then suggesting they go to their room to think about why they are upset. Some parents use a time out chair, but that is usually more effective for more serious behavior issues.
Maintain Your Voice
While screaming at your little angel seems like the best thing to make you feel better, it is really the last thing a parent should do. Keeping your tone sharp but your voice below the yell level is most effective. Yelling will likely teach your child to fear you and could also be a factor to lower self-esteem in their future. Talking softly but with a firm tone
There are two important things to keep in mind when it comes to breaking your child’s habit of whining. First, children aren’t the only ones who whine. Chances are, kids have caught their parents fussing about something from work not being fair. Kids are like sponges, and they soak up every detail they see. Kids are always watching, and they learn from our actions and behaviors. This puts more pressure on parents, to teach by example.
Another main reason kids can be whiney is lack of sleep. Often parents misjudge the amount of sleep a child needs each night. If a child is getting the acceptable amount of hours of sleep each night, perhaps an increased nap time would help during the day. Depending on the child’s age, an extended afternoon nap might rectify the situation.
Each of these methods will be a trial and error process, as one will be more effective with your child than others. The key to changing a child’s behavior is to remember none of these suggestions will cure the whining in just one or two tries. Consistency by the parent is going to show the greatest behavior changes in children.