Sex During Pregnancy: Is It Safe?
As a newly expectant mom, your mind is probably racing with a million questions, all geared at keeping your baby safe and healthy. One of the most common questions expectant couples have is whether it is safe to be intimate. After all, no sacrifice is too big for your baby, and if giving up the deed that got you pregnant in the first place is what’s best, it’s what will happen.
Before you strap on a chastity belt for the next 40 weeks, be sure to ask your doctor if sex is safe or not. She is really the only one who can answer this question for your individual situation. For the most part, if you have a normal pregnancy and have not received any word from your doctor to the contrary, you can rest assured that regular sex is perfectly ok during pregnancy.
Easing Your Mind
Even though you have received the green light on sex from your doctor, you and your partner may still have some questions about how what you are doing together might affect your baby. Your imagination may get the best of you in these situations if you let it. These concerns are extremely common, so don’t feel silly for voicing them. To calm your fears and help you relax a little more (and hopefully have more enjoyable intimate time) we’ll address some of the most common sex-related pregnancy questions so you don’t have to worry needlessly.
Will I Miscarry If I Orgasm?
Orgasms have long been known to cause the uterus to contract. In fact, it’s a tried and true method to induce labor at the end of pregnancy. But doesn’t that mean that it could induce early labor or miscarriage? This depends on you, your body and your pregnancy. Has your doctor said you are at high risk for preterm labor or miscarriage, or warned you about problems with your placenta? While orgasms do cause the uterus to contract, they will only jumpstart labor in a woman that is ready to give birth or who is at risk for complications. If your doctor hasn’t indicated there may be a problem, there is no need to worry about enjoying your time with your partner to the fullest extent possible.
Will It Hurt My Baby?
Throughout your entire pregnancy, your baby is in the squishiest, most comfortable and protected place she will likely ever be. She is surrounded by fluid and flesh that are designed to keep her warm and safe, and it would take a serious trauma to exert enough force to hurt her in this environment. Even during penetration, your baby will remain safely in the amniotic sac, separated from your vagina by a mucus plug in your cervix. Unless you and your partner have an extremely wild sex life (at which point you may want to get detailed in what you ask your doctor) your baby should be perfectly safe during sex.
Will My Partner’s Penis Hit My Baby?
As we previously mentioned, there is little chance your baby could be harmed by any of the acrobatic stunts or positions you should happen to choose while being intimate with your partner. And yes, this includes the possibility of being hit by your partner’s penis. Although many men may swear to the contrary, no penis is long enough to penetrate into the uterus and hit the baby. This is true even if the baby’s head is fully engaged and labor is about to commence. As long as you have a mucus plug and a green light from your doc, you can be as randy as you’d like without worrying that your baby may be harmed.
When To Skip Sex
As we said before, in the vast majority of cases, sex is completely fine during sex. However, there are some circumstances where it is better to abstain. Your doctor may nix the idea of sex at the very beginning of your term if you have a history of miscarriage, placenta problems, or other complications that could affect your body’s ability to stay pregnant or keep the baby free from the risk of infection.
In some cases, your doctor may restrict only one aspect of intimacy. For example, your doctor may allow penetration, but only if the woman does not orgasm. Or penetration may be allowed only with the use of a condom. When penetration itself is a no-go, foreplay and oral sex may still be an option. If your doctor says no sex, make sure you know exactly what has to be avoided and why, or you may needlessly limit yourself. You should also ask whether the ban applies to just a short time period, or to your entire pregnancy.
If you have any of the following conditions, chances are you will have a limited or completely restricted sex life until you deliver:
- Showing signs of preterm labor
- Diagnosed with placenta previa
- History of preterm labor
- Vaginal bleeding
- History of miscarriages
- Diagnosed with incompetent cervix
In these situations, it’s essential to your relationship to find other ways to fill your need for intimacy. Communication is key. Stay within the confines of what your doctor has prescribed as safe, and go from there. Get creative, and enjoy yourself.
Benefits of Sex During Pregnancy
The truth is that sex is pretty awesome, and it is even more so for pregnant women with the green light to enjoy it. If you can, dedicate a little extra time to be alone with your partner and reap the following benefits:
- Lowers blood pressure
- Improves orgasms
- Reduces pain
- Burns calories
- Aides in sleep
- Endorphins increase happiness
- Boosts the immune system
- Helps postpartum recovery
- Increases partner intimacy
Don’t be shy about embracing these fantastic benefits as often as you can. You are growing a human being, after all! So turn on some Barry White, sip on some non-alcoholic sparkling apple cider and enjoy yourself with your partner. If anything changes during your pregnancy, talk to your doctor. He will let you know if sex is safe or not and if you need to find a more G-rated way of relaxing until you deliver your little bundle of joy.